Have you simply lost interest in sex and don’t know what you can do to change it? Then you’re not alone. Plenty of people – both men and women – suffer from a lack of sexual desire. But it doesn’t have to be like that. We’ve put together a few tips on how you can rekindle your interest in sex and at long last enjoy some spine-tingling fun in the bedroom again.
The problem with sexual apathy
Often, everyday life is to blame when couples lose virtually all sexual interest. Stress at work, countless responsibilities and commitments and the task of organising family life – it barely leaves you any time to spend together as a couple. Instead of giving each other your full attention, you each do your own thing and passion becomes a thing of the past. Yet sex is the world’s greatest pastime – so you shouldn’t do without it. Here are a few tips that could help you end the drought in the bedroom.
Food and drink to increase sexual desire
Why not eat your way to an increased appetite for sex? With certain foods known to be aphrodisiacs, you can do precisely that:
Chilli: Not only are chillies hot, they can also really heat things up in the bedroom too. This is thanks to the capsaicin contained in chillies, which not only stimulates blood flow but also triggers the release of the so-called ‘happy hormones’, endorphins.
Avocado: Do you love avocados? Then eat your fill, as these contain high levels of potassium and are rich in vitamin B6. These two ingredients found in avocados can positively affect your feelings of sexual pleasure and desire.
Banana: Bananas have numerous benefits. Not only are they a popular source of energy when doing sport, but they also contain lots of potassium and vitamin B, which are involved in the production of sex hormones in the body.
Watermelon: Watermelon contains high quantities of citrulline. This substance can dilate the blood vessels in the human body, which can help get you going.
Rocket: Not only is rocket very popular, but it can also stimulate sexual desire and be used as an aphrodisiac. This is because rocket contains very high levels of vitamin A, which is involved in producing the sex hormone progesterone.
Ginseng: Ginseng not only boosts the circulation but is also said to relieve stress. As a result, it is said to increase sexual desire.
Cocoa: The phenylethylamine contained in cocoa triggers the release of a hormone that is also produced during sex. So why not just get yourself in the mood by using cocoa as an aphrodisiac? 😉
Almond milk: Almond milk has similar properties. Like cocoa, it stimulates hormone production – in this case, oestrogen and testosterone. This is due to the effect of the vitamin E contained in almond milk.
Steak: A steak contains high levels of arginine. This amino acid can boost sexual interest and virility since it is capable not only of relaxing the muscles but also of promoting circulation.
Give your imagination free rein
Are you not getting any action in your own bedroom, yet you don’t have any problems in your dreams? Great! That’s a sign that you haven’t completely lost sexual desire. Even if your dreams don’t involve your partner and are about someone different, it’s not a problem at all. Usually, dreams like this simply indicate a need for more sensuality and physical contact. Treat them as a starting point and experiment with your partner by trying out some of the things that happen in your dreams in reality with your partner. Generally speaking, it’s important to act out your fantasies. Talk to your partner about what you want to try or just surprise him with it!
Consider changing your contraceptive
Women are particularly prone to suffering from a complete loss of sexual interest at some point. The contraceptive pill could be to blame. It reduces testosterone levels in women – a hormone that plays a crucial role in sexual desire. So it could be worth considering changing your contraceptive. There are other possible options which don’t influence hormone levels in the same way. Women should consult their doctor about this, who will be able to suggest alternative methods of contraception.
Sport to boost your sex drive?
Yes, you read that right! Studies have even confirmed that people who do more sport also have more sex. Sport can have a positive impact on your sex life in many ways. Firstly, higher levels of testosterone are released in men who do weight training, for example. And it is precisely this hormone that is responsible for sexual desire in men. In addition to weight training, moderate endurance training can also have a positive effect on your sex life, as endurance training also stimulates the release of testosterone. And what’s more, regular exercise also helps maintain a good hormonal balance. Sport enables us to find a balance that makes us feel good. And anyone who feels happy in their own body is also more likely to let themselves go with their partner.
Sex by appointment
If you no longer spend any time together as a couple, make an appointment with each other to have sex. It may sound far from exciting the first time, but you could find it helps spice up your sex life. However, it’s important that you both take your ‘sex date’ seriously and see it as a fixed appointment – no excuses.
Experiment – with personal lubricants, sex toys and more
When women have a low sex drive, they usually also don’t have the natural lubrication they need in their intimate area. If this is the case, just reach for a personal lubricant. This provides the lubrication needed, so there’s nothing more stopping you from enjoying your next adventure.
In both men and women, a lack of sexual desire is often due to a lack of variety in the bedroom. Why not try mixing things up with some new sex positions or by using sex toys? It can add a little spice to the bedroom and, with the promise of trying out a new sex toy the next time you hit the sheets, passion comes guaranteed – and that’s a promise!
There are lots of things you can do to rekindle your sexual desire. Here at pjur love, we hope you have lots of fun 🙂