The roles during sex are usually pretty clear when it comes to heterosexual couples. The man penetrates the woman’s vagina or anus, thereby assuming the active role while she assumes a passive role. With pegging, it is different: here, the roles are reversed. With this sexual practice, the woman stimulates her partner anally with the help of a strap-on. Sound exciting? Well, we have a few tips for you.
Relinquish control and enjoy
Dominating a partner when having sex, seducing him or her and being responsible for his or her pleasure can be very stimulating. But for many men, the idea of being stimulated anally is still associated with several preconceptions. Anal sex is often associated with homosexuality or bisexuality. Many men forget the fact that many nerve cells merge in the anus and the prostate is the male equivalent to the G-spot in women. Hence, stimulating a man’s rear end can lead to an even more intense orgasm. For women, the excitement with pegging is that it allows them to experience sex from a different perspective. Many women have surely asked themselves at least once what it would be like to assume the dominant role and have control, right?
What is a strap-on actually?
But before we get to a few tips about pegging, let’s first explain what a strap-on actually is and how it is used. Unfortunately, this toy is still associated with many stereotypes that usually come from pornos. For example, lesbian couples use a strap-on so they can pleasure each other. It is an outdated cliché and a usually heterosexual male conception of lesbian love relationships. This toy is intended much more for heterosexual couples that simply want to change roles. However, that is not to say that strap-on is never used in lesbian relationships. After all, everyone can live out their sex life the way they want – without any tabus and restrictions. However, we would like to still explain what kind of a sex toy it really is.
The strap-on consists of a harness that is placed around the hips and is attached to a dildo. It can be easily removed to replace it with a dildo in another size and to be able to clean it better. Some strap-ons have a double-sided dildo so that both the man and woman can find what their hearts desire. It enables the man to be stimulated anally and the woman vaginally at the same time.
Anyone who is interested in trying out pegging should speak about it openly with his or her partner – because it is absolutely not a tabu to have sexual fantasies and to want to live them out. For women, it can sometimes be somewhat strange to put on a strap-on – many do not feel comfortable wearing one or think that they look silly. For this reason, it is a good idea to first try on the toy by yourself to get used to the feeling and what it looks like. We have some additional tips and suggestions in another article for anyone trying anal sex out for the first time.
Everything you need to know about pegging
Have we sparked your interest and you want to try out pegging together? Then, we have a few tips here for you that can make it easier to get going:
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Freshen up
Anyone who has tried out anal sex may have already experienced uncomfortable stains and smells in the bedroom as a result of not emptying the bowels beforehand. An anal douche should be used beforehand to prevent this. Additionally, the timing of the preparation is really important: Do not eat anything two hours beforehand – this way you can ensure that nothing unexpected occurs. We also recommend taking a shower before getting started. Of course, you can do this alone or with your partner so increase the excitement ahead of time.
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Don’t forget the lube
The right lube is important during anal sex. Since the anus does not produce any lubricating substance, penetrating the anus with a penis or sex toy can be difficult and cause discomfort if a lubricant is not used. At pjur, we offer a variety of products that make anal sex and penetrating the anus with sex toys more comfortable.
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Warm up
To prevent any discomfort, you should do a few warm-up exercises before pegging just like you do before doing sports. If you have never tried anal sex before, you should first slowly feel around the area with your fingers. You can discover the area either alone or together with your partner. To stretch the anal area and prepare for something bigger, you can use a finger, and then over time, you can experiment with anal dildos, butt plugs or love beads. It is really important to take your time and work slowly with the next biggest toy.
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Cool down
Cleaning a strap-on is very important after it is used. Like with all other sex toys, strap-ons should also be cleaned thoroughly. After washing it with water and soap, you’re able to hygienically use it again the next time.
Now you are perfectly prepared for an exciting change of roles. Be daring and try it out because pegging can be a rewarding experience that disregards the traditional roles couples play. Have fun while using it!
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