Some think it’s just amazing, an unbelievable feeling of fullness, and intense closeness to their partner. That’s right, everyone’s talking about… fisting. Most people only have a vague idea of it being an extreme sex practice. As usual, our goal is to educate and encourage greater acceptance and appreciation. Fisting is still a taboo, so we’re going to tell you all about it, and give you some tips and tricks for safe, sensual fisting.
- How do you do it?
- Anal, vaginal – both are possible!
- Talk to each other
- (More) Personal lubricant!
- Clean up – Hygiene is a must
- Preparation is everything
- Time to get down to it: a guide to fisting for beginners
- From Finger to Fist – The Right Technique
- Conclusion
How do you do it?
The expression comes from the word “fist.” It’s where one finger after another, and finally the whole hand, is inserted into either the vagina or the anus of your partner. Sounds gross or painful? It doesn’t have to be, we promise! With the right knowledge, a lot of patience, plenty of personal lubricant, and trust, you can take your sex life to a whole new level. We want to explain why fisting has a whole host of benefits for you. And who knows… perhaps our tips will help you discover a whole new passion. 😊
Anal, vaginal – both are possible!
Did you know? At pjur we’re celebrating anal August! But fisting doesn’t have to be via the back passage. It is a diverse practice that can work both anally and vaginally. The difference is that the anus is considerably narrower than the vagina. But this challenge is easy to overcome with plenty of time, patience, and even more relaxation. Here we have some tips to help you prepare for pleasure. They work with both anal and vaginal fisting.
Talk to each other
The most important thing first: communication builds trust and clarity. If you want to try “it,” talk it over first with your partner. Tell them what you want and make it clear in advance that they can say either yes or no. Anal and vaginal fisting is an intense experience which isn’t always for everyone. Talking together has the advantage of strengthening the trust between you both. And, as a newly minted expert (at least in theory), you can explain exactly how it works. In the end, it should be a wonderful mutual experience that both of you can sensually enjoy.
(More) Personal lubricant!
Personal lubricant and patience – the two magical things that you need more of than you think! Fisting is not something that works at a moment’s notice (by the way: saliva is definitely not personal lubricant!). Choosing the right personal lubricant is just as essential as all that time and patience. At pjur we’ve developed a personal lubricant especially for fisting. It is a hybrid lubricant based on both water and silicone. For fisting it works perfectly in terms of gliding. Check out pjur POWER here.
Clean up – Hygiene is a must
You mainly use your hands and fingers when fisting and groping, so hand washing is essential. Make sure your fingernails are short too, so you don’t accidentally hurt your partner. Jewelry and watches should also be taken off beforehand. If you’re trying anal fisting, make sure the rectum is empty and cleaned. If you want, you can even wear special latex or disposable gloves to make sure everything stays nice and slippery, and so too much personal lubricant doesn’t come off on your hands. They also protect you from possible infections – like a condom but for hands. It’s also best to put enough towels down around you, as there can be a lot of personal lubricant and body fluids left over after orgasm.
Preparation is everything
If you’re both ready and in bed, first indulge in lengthy, leisurely foreplay. This relaxes everyone and leaves you wanting more. Try dimming the lights and putting on some music to create a relaxing atmosphere that will get you both in the mood. Give yourselves plenty of time and pay attention to your partner’s body language and reactions. Tell each other if something’s not right. If it hurts, it’s best to go back a step. Remember: nothing has to happen or work straightaway. You won’t get that far on the first attempt. If you want, you can also decide on a safe word.
Time to get down to it: a guide to fisting for beginners
Find a position that works for you. Most people choose to lie on their back with their legs bent toward the shoulders or get into doggy position. If you’re lying on your back, it might help to put a cushion under your ass. The pelvis can be moved in this position, giving the passive partner some control. Now the active partner can gently push their finger into the vagina or anus (depending on what you want to try), using massaging movements. Remember: never switch between the two! Intestinal bacteria don’t belong in the vagina.
While you slowly penetrate with a finger, you can also stimulate the clitoris at the same time (again, with the other hand please) to really get your partner relaxed. When the receiving partner is ready, you can insert the other fingers, one by one. Each time you take it further, linger a while. This helps the body get used to the feeling. Using slow, small, circling movements, you can keep going until you can penetrate your partner with your whole hand. Remember that you need to go in and out carefully. Tip for men: you can also give the prostate a fantastic massage. This is a particularly amazing experience and will quickly lead to an orgasm.
From Finger to Fist – The Right Technique
Once you’re used to it and you know you enjoy this kind of stimulation, next time you can take it a step further. A common technique for anyone who wants to insert the whole hand is the silent duck. Simply squeeze all your fingertips together (like a duck’s beak) and press the thumb against the middle finger. If you’ve gradually built up the number of fingers you’re using, slowly insert the hand in this shape. The more experienced can slightly open their hand, or even change it to a fist. Don’t worry about stretching an orifice for too long. The human body is excellent at adapting, and everything will move back into its original shape. So long as you take it slowly and pay attention to each other, you’ll be fine.
Conclusion
Anal and vaginal fisting encourages a high degree of intimacy, establishes trust, and can result in extremely intense orgasms. Particularly around the anus, it stimulates a lot of nerve endings. You just need loads of personal lubricant, patience, and sensitivity. Touch each other slowly and make sure there’s plenty of time to relax both before and afterwards. 😉 With the right tips on hand, give it a go. Just remember: personal lubricant is king.
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