Everyone has a bottom! So shouldn’t we all be curious about stimulating it? We know that anal sex is no longer a taboo and we’ve already looked at how you can have a lot of fun with anal sex toys. But what else is out there in the world of anal desire? Rimming can give you intensive orgasms regardless of your sexual orientation, gender identity or sexual preferences. It also allows you to treat your partner to something a little different. Let’s take a look at what rimming actually is and find out how we can best get a feel for it. We’ll also give you some tips and information on how to mix it up a bit.
Rimming: What is it?
Rimming, also known as anilingus, rim job or eating ass, is a sexual practice where one person uses their mouth and tongue to stimulate the outer or inner anus of another person. Rimming can be enjoyed as foreplay or as the “main course”. Many couples practice rimming as part of oral sex or in preparation for penetrative anal sex as a way of getting the anus ready to be stretched.
What’s allowed with rimming?
Basically, anything that’s enjoyable and that everyone involved has consented to! Sucking, breathing, licking, circling or gentle slaps. You can use one hand, for example, to pleasure your partner’s genitals or also use smaller anal plugs. Personal lubricant is always a good idea if you want to use your hand to penetrate your partner because whether you’re using your fingers or sex toys to stimulate your partner, you should always do everything possible to prevent injury.
What do I need to know about rimming?
Intimate hygiene is naturally a must with all types of sex games. If you’re practising rimming, it’s always a good idea to have everything clean down there. A thorough shower is good enough, of course, but using a special antibacterial intimate spray, for example, can also be a great way to add some extra freshness and enjoy a clean, invigorating sensation. It’s always a good idea to have any hair in this area shaved, waxed or at least trimmed because our mouths and tongues are very sensitive and can be irritated by the presence of hair. You could also use a dental dam to prevent diseases or the transmission of coli bacteria.
Rimming: Getting a feel for it
So, you’re clean, trimmed and hot. What now? If you want to get a feel for rimming, doing it in the shower first can be a good idea. The water can distract a bit from your nerves 😉. Once you’re ready to try it in the dry, it’s best to take it slow. These five tips can help you here:
- Don’t rush into it
Let your partner know that you’re in the mood for rimming! Start by gently stroking, massaging, kissing and nibbling their bum cheeks and/or the inside of their thighs. You could, for example, lick from their coccyx down their bum crack. It’s not just a massive turn on. It also relaxes the anus and surrounding area. - Use your warm breath
The many nerve endings around the anus will ensure that your partner intensively feels even the smallest stimulations. Try gently blowing or breathing on it before starting to use your mouth and tongue. - Use your lips
If you’re keen to go a step further, you can gently pinch the inside of your partner’s thighs with your lips. Kiss their perineum or place your lips on their anus and gently suck it. - Are you ready? Now it’s time for your tongue.
Once you’ve explored everything and get your partner hot enough, it’s time to bring out your tongue.
The best approach here is to lay your tongue flat over the anus and apply different levels of pressure. You can start by licking towards the perineum and towards the coccyx. After this, you can point or tighten up your tongue and move it in a circle around the anus. - Penetration with your tongue
Does the partner you’re stimulating like what you’re doing down there? If they do, then you could be a bit bolder and penetrate their anus with the tip of your tongue. You can then follow this by inserting your entire tongue. Quickly, slowly or in a circle. You can, of course, continue to stimulate the genitals with your other hand. Be aware, however, that penetration with your tongue can be tiring and really needs to be practised.
Make rimming even more exciting with these positions!
We already know what the best positions for anal sex are. But which positions are good for rim jobs? Unsurprisingly, it’s your bottom that takes centre stage here. Ideally, you should be lying comfortably in a way that allows easy access to your anus. The following positions are particularly good here.
- Missionary: Lie on your back with a pillow under your coccyx, your legs in the air and your bottom exposed. You can control access by spreading or stretching your legs wider.
- Doggy style or bent over a couch: Here, you are kneeling in front of your partner. Your behind is accessible and you can control access by leaning forward.
This position is good for ensuring the genitals are also stimulated. - 69 or face sitting: In a 69 position, you and your partner can stimulate each other anally at the same time. If you are face sitting, the passive partner crouches down over the face of the person doing the rimming. This position gives the passive partner room to move, allowing them to regulate the intensity of the stimulation.
- Standing up in a shower or room: Stick out your bottom and keep your legs spread wide.
Are their different rimming variants?
Yes! You can use a range of food products to mix up your rim jobs a bit. Honey, cream or chocolate spread are particularly popular choices for anilingus. Just make sure you don’t use any spicy or sour foods.
Anal sex toys are also great, especially if anilingus becomes too tiring. You can use anal plugs or anal dildos, for example, or toys that simultaneously stimulate the penis or vulva.
If you use toys, make sure you have sufficient amounts of personal lubricant to hand. Regardless of whether you stimulate the anus beforehand with your mouth or tongue, it still won’t produce any natural lubrication, so personal lubricant is a must for anal penetration or if you’re using anal plugs and other toys.
When practising rimming, remember that you should never insert anything into your vagina that’s just been in your anus. Not a tongue, a finger or anal sex toys. It also doesn’t do any harm to wash your mouth out with antibacterial mouthwash after anilingus or have a shower before carrying on with other sex games.
So, we’ve taken a look at what rimming actually is and explored the best ways to get a feel for it. We’ve also given you some tips and information on how to mix it up a bit. Now, we hope you have a lot of fun exploring this great technique.
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