Sex in Later Life – Why You’re Never Too Old to Try Something New

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Embrace this time in life to try out new things

Young people often find it difficult to imagine that older people can have a sex life. This is likely linked to the fact that having sex after a certain age is still considered a taboo topic and those over the age of 50 rarely talk about their own sexuality. However, this doesn’t mean that it’s not there – far from it. For many people, sex in later life is actually better: they have more experience, are more in tune with their own bodies, and are more self-confident. In other words, they have a much greater understanding of their own sexual desires. Yes, sex changes with age but – more often than not – it’s more self-assured than it ever used to be. Want to find out how your sexuality changes as you age and why you’re never too old to try something new? Then carry on reading.

Sex in later life – Less often but by no means less important

Studies have shown that although people aged between 60 and 80 have less sex than those younger than them, sexual feelings and intimacy are just as important for this generation, if not more so. Some women report having the best sex of their lives after reaching the age of 50. Meanwhile, after a certain age, men are relieved of some of the pressure to perform or prove themselves to others. These are all reasons as to why sex can get better with age. Nevertheless, as your body gets older, your sexuality changes, too. How exactly? Find out below.

How does your sexuality change as you get older?

Like many things, sex alters as your age increases. For one, opening up about sex when you’re that bit older also means accepting that your body may not be able to do what it used to. As we age, our bodies change – whether due to hormonal changes or physical limitations.

Women have to deal, first and foremost, with the menopause. During this process, not only does the female body stop producing estrogen, it also supplies less blood to the vagina, making it drier. As a result, it takes longer for women to become aroused and many experience pain during sex due to this vaginal dryness. However, there are things you can use to help. A lubricating gel can come in very handy. At pjur, we have a whole variety of different lubricants, including a range for women designed to help reduce discomfort during sex – so you can stay sexually active.

Whilst the menopause may be the first thing that comes to mind when thinking about older sex, men are also influenced by hormones as they mature. Their testosterone level drops, which is often accompanied by a lower libido. Men can also be impacted by mood swings and sleep disorders. On top of changes in hormones, there are physical complaints and limitations – which affect both men and women alike.

But you shouldn’t let any of this get in the way! If your body allows it, older sex can bring lots of advantages as well! As mentioned above, there’s no real pressure to perform and you don’t have to worry about the possibility of becoming pregnant. You’re no longer bothered about impressing anyone, you’re usually more in touch with your own feelings, and perhaps you’ve also found a long-term partner who you can trust completely and with whom you can simply let yourself go. You may also find that you now have the space to spend some quality time with your partner and focus entirely on enjoying intimate moments together. What’s more, contraception is no longer a cause for worry, which allows many people – particularly women – to embrace their sexuality in an especially free and uninhibited way. And don’t forget: being physically active boosts your health and well-being.

All in all, sex when you’re older can really only be a good thing. That’s why we want to share with you a few tips for you to try when exploring this new stage in your sex life.

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Your sex life is important, no matter what your age

Sexuality in later life – It’s time to try something new

  • The right position is key: You may not be as flexible as you used to be. But there’s nothing the right sex position can’t fix. You don’t need to opt for the most exciting or acrobatic position out there, standard missionary (perhaps with a few extra cushions for comfort) or another of these popular, classic sex positions ensures you’re feeling comfortable and relaxed – and helps avoid any subsequent back pains. 😉
  • Use a lubricant: Due to the menopause and the vaginal dryness that results, women are particularly impacted by pain during sex. On top of this, it can sometimes take that bit longer for a woman to become aroused, which also leads to dryness. However, there is something to help remedy this – a personal lubricant. Personal lubricant provides the necessary moisture to the intimate areas, allowing women to enjoy pain-free sex. Lubricants are easy to use and you can also find products specially designed for sensitive skin. Our tip (no matter what your age): use personal lubricant whenever, however often, and in whatever quantity feels right for you. It’s only going to make your sex life better! 😉
  • Natural ED remedies can help: For men, erectile dysfunction can be a tricky topic to talk about. But unfortunately the truth is that most men will have to face impotence issues at some point (and not only older men)! However, this isn’t a reason to worry. There are many natural remedies that can help. In some of our products, we use ginkgo, ginseng, and paprika, which can have an arousing, stimulating effect. Find out exactly what effect each ingredient has and in what products you can find it here.
  • Create your own sexual bucket list: Is there something you’ve always wanted to try out? Has a sex trend you’ve heard about piqued your interest? Whether you want to experiment with a particular technique in bed or have sex in an unusual place, don’t be scared to have the sex you want. If you’re looking for some spicy sex trends, then check out this article. Lists like these are great for ideas, even if you’re after something a bit more “conventional” like sharing an intimate bath together. Be brave and see what’s out there!
  • Make time: Everyday life can be busy, and we often forget to take time out for ourselves, our partners, and our needs. Give into each other and consciously make time to make love.
  • Communicate openly: This applies to absolutely everyone when it comes to sex. Talk about it!  In other words, don’t be afraid to say out loud what you want and what’s important to you. This is the key to satisfying sex – whatever your age!
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As always, communication is critical when it comes to sexual needs and desires

Summary: How should you live out your sexuality as you age?

Sexuality encompasses a whole range of different possibilities and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to it, even when you’re older. Everyone’s sexuality is different, and that’s what makes it so fun! Whether you’re having sex when you’re 60 or days before your 80th birthday, if you enjoy it and your body allows it, then it’s allowed! Whilst you may not be engaging in sexual activity as often as your age rises, this does not make it any less important or fulfilling.

So have fun doing what you like, with whom you like, and at whatever age you like! ❤

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